Single Mom

Part of this whole "Single Mom Dating" is the MOM part.  You think it's difficult dating?  Try adding the Single Mom to that equation.  All week I've had sick kids in and out of school - not pretty.  Now throw in the schedules for basketball, cheerleading and rehearsals for the school play...and finally the wonderful part where my oldest gets a ticket for running a red light.  Oh yeah, did I mention that I will have minor surgery this month also.  Thank God I have a sense of humor because it would all be enough to make a person go insane.  

No new dates.  I have had a few matches from eHarmony come and go.  In the eHarmony profile you can list the 5 "Things I Can't Live Without".  Well, I had a match request the guided communication with me.  I wasn't very attracted to his physical appearance, but I thought I would look past that and check out his profile.  In the things he can't live without, he listed "anime".  According to Webster's Dictionary the definition of anime is a style of animation originating in Japan that is characterized by stark colorful graphics depicting vibrant characters in action-filled plots often with fantastic or futuristic themes.  ...I'm sorry...I think that's just strange for a 40 something year old man to list that as one of the things he can't live without.  I understand if that is an interest, but something you can't live without???  Really?

There was also the gentleman who would like everyone to know he may be "the most interesting man in the world".  A little narcissistic don't you think?

Or the man who listed his occupation as "domestic"...hmmmm...does that fall under the same category as "life coach"?

I do have to say, it's been an interesting journey thus far.

Stay tuned...next week I should have some interesting stories.  My mom is having a big birthday party this weekend...dancing, drinking, family, and friends...always a good combination for a good story.  I think I may need to take my video camera for this one.

Quiet Week - Reflections

It's been a pretty quiet week.  Well, not really, but nothing very productive or positive.

Eharmony is turning out to be very disappointing.  I don't think I will renew my subscription once my commitment is finished.  Some of these matches they send me are unbelievable.  There is supposed to be this great system eHarmony has that matches me with these men using this huge questionnaire that I completed.  I don't understand how the "Life Coach" is a good match.  As a good friend said, it's just another word for "unemployed".  And what about the guy who poses in front of the bathroom mirror to take a picture of himself.  My 18 year old son does that for his Facebook profile.  Really?  What's even worse is that this same guy took multiple pictures of himself in different bathrooms.  One of the bathrooms was a public restroom with stalls and a urinal.  Are you kidding me?  Maybe, I'm being picky.  He's just trying to show how well-traveled he is, right?  Or the guy who listed sex - five times - as the 5 things he can't live without.  No wonder he's single.  But then again, so am I.  Hmmmm...

I am a strong woman - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  I do know this is a threat to many men.  I wish men would be more up front.  If you don't want to talk to me, that's okay.  I'm not going to slit my wrists.  More than likely, I'm already to talking to a few other men anyway.  You're not going to hurt my feelings.  I don't know why this is hard for some men to understand.  Just be honest.

I have come to this conclusion...somewhere around the age of 30, give or take a few years, there is a shift.  Women fade away from the "drama queen" role and men develop into "Drama Kings".  This theory does not apply to all men, but to the majority (about 90%) of those I have known.

The tide has turned,  my friends...the tide has turned.

"Today Was A Good Day"

I had some amazing conversations with a great guy yesterday!

Details???

As Tom Hanks said in Saving Private Ryan, "No, no that one I save just for me."

Date Last Night

I know there are some who are dying to hear how my date went last night, but it was pretty uneventful. 

First, let me say, I have not yet met "Agape".  I believe the last time I posted, I was supposed to meet him on Thursday or Friday.  I postponed until Saturday due to babysitting issues (that obviously ended up working out on Friday).  The last time I spoke with Agape was Wednesday.  I text him this morning to confirm meeting him this evening and he kind of blew me off.  Oh well, his loss.

One of my other matches called yesterday and asked to meet last night.  We decided to go to the movies.  Not exactly, my first choice for meeting someone, but it worked out okay and we saw the movie True Grit.  He was nice enough, but there were some things he did during the movie that just bugged me.  I know I'm going to sound like Seinfeld when I explain.  I'm really not a picky person, but...

He was very loud during the movie.  I don't believe he understands the concept of whispering.  He would repeat lines of the movie that were humorous...in his loud voice.  Then he started clapping in the middle of the movie.  It was a humorous part, but he had his hands in the air...at face level...clapping...and laughing...LOUD.  I looked around, because maybe I was just being critical...maybe I was being too picky...no...people were staring.

Like I said, he was nice, but I don't think the Loud Talker or the Clapper is a good match.  Which name should I use?

UPDATE

I believe due to the New Year I have had several matches and acquaintances resurface this week.  Resolutions maybe?  Very interesting...

Well, it turns out Mr. Scientology doesn't really believe in Scientology.  His new code name is "Agape".  I didn't speak to him for a while and he called me this week.  We had many conversations about our faith and exactly what each of us believes and does not believe.  So, I am giving him a second chance and we are supposed to meet this weekend.

I also spoke to "The Racist" this week.  I am amazed what spews from the mouths of men.  A lot of them really don't think before they speak.  He believes my city has many school districts because of all the Hispanic kids.  I'm Mexican.  As we spoke on the phone, he interrupts to speak to his 8 yr. old son.  This is not good.  I have a firm policy with my children - they are not to interrupt me when I am on the phone unless there is blood gushing or bones protruding from their bodies.  So, the Racist has a full conversation with his son about our conversation.  Also not good, because now his son has been listening to what was a conversation between two adults.  They start talking about how there are only white people in his city and how black people only live in Africa.  My oldest son is half black.  Oh, and he's a Christian.  Wow...

I'm beginning to wonder if this is all worth it.

"Nylon Fetish"

Well, the new year started off with a dud...the newest addition is "Nylon Fetish".  I really had high hopes for this match.  We went through the Guided Communication and exchanged phone numbers.  I spoke to him for the first time on January 1.  The conversation went well...at first.  We were getting to know each other a little better. The typical questions about faith, jobs, family, likes/dislikes, etc...  

The red flag came out when he asked if I wore dresses and nylons a lot.  ???  I said no because I went to a private school for 9 years and had to wear dresses everyday.  After that experience, my first choice is not a dress.  And nylons?  Maybe I'm wrong, and I don't wear dresses very often, so I could be totally off base with this one, but does anyone where nylons anymore???  I understand for work maybe, but when I've gone out, I don't think I've ever seen a woman wearing nylons.  It's just not very common.  Again, I maybe totally wrong on this, but this just seemed weird to me and I told him.  He kind of laughed it off and said maybe he just has a nylon fetish.  You think?  I mean this could be really bad.  All kinds of things are going through my mind at this point...is he wearing nylon masks to rob banks?  Maybe he's psycho and uses nylons to tie up his victims? Hahahaha...no...really...

I fumble through the rest of the conversation as questions are asked about our experiences with other eHarmony matches.  I mentioned my code names for previous matches and he seemed nervous.  He even asked what his code name would be? 

As I'm trying to process all of this information, the conversation takes a catastrophic turn...he starts talking about the nylon fetish again.  He tells me he loves the way nylons feel next to his skin.  Really?  Then he's telling me he wants to have sex with me and different sexual positions he likes.  Are you kidding me?  Am I really hearing this?  Again??? He starts explaining in detail what he would like to do to me.  And no...I am NOT going to write about the details.  I told him I had to go and got off the phone as quickly as possible.  He sent me a text the next day and I told him this was not going to work.

Yes, psycho, you made the cut...you are now officially code named 

"Nylon Fetish".

Happy New Year!

New Year. New Beginnings.  I think I said this last year...oh well.  I'm starting fresh!  As I've mentioned to a few of my friends, I will not settle when it comes to finding the love of my life. So on to New Beginnings. New Adventures!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!